教你如何抱得美人歸

8a2s · 發表于 2011-10-30 10:33

本帖最后由 8a2s 于 2011-10-30 10:37 編輯

當一個女人與一個男人初次相遇時，剛開始互動的幾分鐘非常關鍵，它將決定之后兩個人的關系。簡言之，她會在遇到你之后的3-5分鐘里，對你做出全部的最關鍵的判斷。在這個最重要的時間段里面，她會“計算”你的價值，并據此確定你有與她有多大的可能性。

接下來，她會決定是否愿意與你以任意的形式繼續發展。確定之后，她會在心里將你歸類為潛在的情人，或者潛在的朋友，以此對她認為有可能的關系進行管理。歸類之后，你就再也沒有別的可能了。比如，如果她把你當作情人，最后分手了，就沒有“讓我們做回普通朋友”這回事了。不行的原因就是彼此之間的吸引太強，而這種尷尬的局面會阻止一切真正的友誼出現。

相反，如果一個人認定你只是普通朋友，你就開始陪她“閑混”，期待奇跡出現，她能漸漸地被你所吸引。你會對她很好，送她禮物，當她遭到混蛋男友的背叛時借她肩膀，陪她逛街，在她需要車接車送時隨叫隨到。但是，所有這些努力都是徒勞的，因為第一次見面時她已經把你歸類為普通朋友，你永遠只是個朋友而已。這確實是殘酷的現實，雖然你可能正面臨這種狀況，抱著最后一絲希望在一個女身上繼續浪費時間，但如果從邏輯上思考一下，你就能夠認清這個現實。

簡言之：如果你戀上的是一個只把你當作普通朋友的女人，你將永遠沒有辦法成為她的情人。你與一個女人發生親密關系的唯一的機會，只存在于你與她初次相遇的幾分鐘，如果這時你讓她感覺不對，那她將再不會成為你的情人。我討厭烏鴉嘴，但事實就是這樣。

如果你不幸被她判定為普通朋友，那唯一能做的就是忘掉這個女孩去尋找下一個，這將使你免于心碎，以及金錢和時間的損失。理論上，如果足夠努力，你也許能說服這個女孩跟你約會，但是沒有最初的激情，這段關系注定將很快結束。傻瓜才會這么做。

在好萊塢的言情劇里，美麗的女人身邊那個好男人要么智勝“壞男人”，要么憑借運氣，最終抱得美人歸。從此以后，他們幸福地生活在一起，等等等等，都是扯淡。在現實世界里，好男人總是提醒這個美女，美女也會認識到那個壞男人有多混蛋并且離他而去，但她之后只是出去遇見又一個壞男人并開始約會，而好男人仍然只是普通朋友。你有沒有想過為什么女人這么喜歡言情劇？因為那些都是童話，那里面的劇情在現實世界里永遠不會發生。如果這些片子像現實生活一樣，那就沒人看了。這與男人喜歡看動作片是一個道理。邦德可以開著保時捷穿過爆炸的大樓，從屋頂上沖下來，在半空中一槍擊落一架直升飛機，最后落在另一個屋頂上，而他的高級坐駛還完好無損，甚至沒有一絲劃痕…但并不代表這是真的。這只是為我們編造的故事。

言歸正傳，如果你剛認識了一個女人，而你真正的目的是跟她上床，你必須馬上讓她知道你的目的。游戲一開始，你要抱有“要么全部，要么沒有”的態度，并在你的言行里面表現出來。在一開始見到她的幾分鐘里，如果你能讓她了解你希望成為她的情人而非朋友，你將避免被發好人卡。通過適度的挑逗，比如戲弄、肢體接觸、中立性否定、打情罵俏、眉目傳情以及很多其他技術手段，你可以輕易地做到這點。舉止風趣、漫不經心，看上去沒什么正經的，只是想找點樂子。絕對不要讓她以任何的方式支配你，不要為她買飲料，不要幫她拿著或看著包包。

如果遵守以上的規則，你就可以成功避免再次被發好人卡，并且與她發生親密的關系，而不是維持一廂情愿的友誼，被人當作可以利用的“好男人”。

永遠記住：不被發好人卡的唯一辦法，就是從一開始就不要做一個好人！

When a woman first meets a man, the initial few minutes of her interaction with him are crucial and will determine the type of relationship that will ensue from then on. In simple terms: She will make all of her most important judgments about you within 3-5 minutes of meeting you. During this ever-important window of time the woman will "appraise" your value, and then upon determining how much potential you have she will then decide if she wants to even continue to have any form of relationship with you at all. Once this is done, she will then place you into one of two categories within her mind to govern the type of relationship that she feels you to be worthy of: potential lover or potential friend. Once a woman has made her decision and has placed you into one of these two categories, you will forever be stuck there for as long as you know her. For example, if she considers you as a lover and you begin having a sexual relationship with her and then break up, there will be no "Let's just be friends now". This would simply not work because the physical attraction is too strong and the awkwardness of the situation would prevent any real friendship for occurring. On the other hand, she could consider you as a friend and you would begin to "hang out" with her, all the while hoping that something will magically happen and she will become gradually attracted to you. You would be nice to her, buy her gifts, let her cry on your shoulder when her asshole boyfriend cheats on her, go shopping with her and always be on call to drive her wherever she pleases. However, all of this effort would be in vain because she had already categorized you when you first met her, and you are forever locked into the "Friend's Zone". What you are reading right now is the brutal honest truth, and even though you may be in this type of situation right now with a woman and are hanging on to any last hope that you may have, deep down you should be able to see the real truth if you think about it logically. It's as simple as this: If you have a crush on a woman that you are "just friends" with, you will never have a chance to become her lover. Your one and only shot at having an intimate relationship with a woman is within the first few minutes of meeting her, if you do not make the right impression at that time then her legs will be forever closed to you. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is just the way that it is. The only thing to do once you're in the friend's zone is to forget about that girl and move on to the next one, doing this will save you loads of heartache, money and time. Theoretically, with a huge amount of effort you could possibly convince the woman to date you, but without the strong initial attraction that relationship with her will be doomed to fail rather quickly. It is a fool's errand. In Hollywood "chick flicks", the nice guy who is best friends with the beautiful woman typically either out-smarts the "bad guy" or just gets lucky and ultimately ends up with the woman on his arm. After that, they go on to live happily ever after and blah blah, bullshit. In the real world, the nice guy will usually tip off the beautiful woman and she will realize how much of a jerk the bad guy is and dump him, but then just go out and meet another bad boy and begin dating him while the nice guy is still just her friend. Have you ever thought about why women love those chick flicks so much? It's because they are all fairy tales and have a plot that would never happen in reality, if those movies were like real life then they wouldn't be nearly as interesting. It's like the equivalent of what action flicks are to us men. Even though James Bond can drive a Porsche through an exploding building, ramp it off of the roof, shoot down a helicopter with a single shot while still in mid-air and then land on another rooftop without even getting a single scratch on his high-end vehicle... doesn't mean that it could ever actually happen. It's the impossible that we are drawn to. With that said, let's get back on track: If you have just met a new woman and your actual intentions are to have a sexual relationship with her, you MUST immediately let her know that is what you want from her. You need to have an "all or nothing" attitude when first gaming a woman, and express this in everything that you say and do. Within the first few minutes of meeting her, if you can get the message across to her that you want to be her lover and not her friend, you will easily be able to avoid ever being dropped into the friend's zone. You can accomplish this simply by flirting properly, which includes teasing, kino, negs, push & pull, smiling seductively and a wide array of other techniques and methods. Be fun and carefree, act as if you're not looking for anything serious and just want to have a good time. Never allow her dominate you in any way, do not buy her drinks or hold/watch her purse for her. When you follow the guidelines listed above, you will successfully be able to prevent yourself from ever becoming "just a friend" again, and will begin to have sexual relationships with women rather than one-sided friendships in which you are just being used by women due to being a "nice guy". Always remember: The only way to get out of the friend's zone is to avoid ever going there in the first place!